Positive Postpartum Affirmations
Focusing on the labor and birth of your baby during pregnancy leaves many women unrehearsed for the “Fourth Trimester” and beyond. The postpartum period is a time that many women struggle with bonding, feeding, sleeping and giving themselves basic needs for an overall healthy transition into motherhood.
Continuing to speak affirmations over yourself after birth is beneficial in building positive mental health for both you and your baby. Below are several powerful affirmations that will encourage you as embark on your new journey.
I am a strong and capable parent.
I am able to balance all of my responsibilities with ease and grace.
My body will continue to heal.
I am making the best choice for my baby.
Challenging does not mean impossible.
I am so much stronger than I think.
I will take this one moment at a time.
I will try my best to enjoy the process.
I am doing the best I can with what I have.
My baby is being nourished by me.
I will listen to advice given but listen to my intuition above all else.
I am rockin’ this mom bod and I look beautiful.
I allow my tribe to surround me with love and support.
I honor and respect the instinct inside me.
My baby is a different human than someone else’s baby.
I know what my baby needs.
I trust the divine development of my baby.
My baby and I share a sacred bond.
Patience is the first lesson I am working on as a mother.
I will take the time for self-care today.
I will lean into my partner when I need help.
I will choose to be kind to myself.
I am beautifully and wonderfully made.
No one else can mother my baby better than me.
I can freely choose how to parent my baby.
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Fourth Trimester… Oh My! Tips for sanity and survival
Congratulations. You have grown a baby. The 40 or so weeks of waiting are finally over and you are wondering what on earth to expect now. While your body is no longer housing a tiny human, something still feels off. The fog has not lifted. Your energy is low, your hormones are whack, and your stamina is half of what it used to be. Life seems to be filled with endless feedings, swaddling, burping, soothing and not sleeping. The days are blurry and the nights are endless. You have officially entered the fourth trimester. These next twelve or so weeks are a completely different marathon. Below are 6 tips that I felt helped me transition into motherhood with grace and kindness towards myself and my baby.
1. Take it easy the first few weeks. You will be back to “yourself” eventually but right now, your body is healing. Healing from pregnancy and birth. It will not feel “normal” anytime soon.
2. Never say “no” to someone offering help. People, in general, want to know how they can help. Let them cook meals, buy you Starbucks, clean your house, hold/feed your baby, carry your purse… anything. You don’t have to do it all. Even ask for help if you need it. You are not weak if you ask. You just made a human. That’s pretty damn strong.
3. Do not put pressure on yourself to get that pre-pregnancy body back during this trimester. It will not happen and you are setting yourself up for disappointment. Things are a little more shifty and squishy. It is ok. No one is judging you and if they are, you don’t need them in your life.
4. An hour or two goes by VERY quickly. Especially realized when a newborn baby is eating that often. At the end of the day, if you are wondering where the day has gone, know that you kept your baby fed. That is a big feat in itself. But everyday, try your best to do at least one thing for yourself. Eat a cookie. Walk slowly around the block. Ask for a massage from your partner. Take a bath. Read something (googling articles about your baby doesn’t count).
5. These first three months are all about SURVIVAL. Forget ALL. THE. RULES. and trust your instincts. If you hold your baby all day for him/her to nap, fine. If you get take out for 12 weeks straight, great. If you rock or nurse your baby to sleep, job well done. There is no “right” way to parent. Your mama instincts are powerful. You have everything you need inside of you to care for your baby. Silence the judge-y noise.
6. Believe the saying “the days are long but the years are short.” Although it feels like you’ll never have poopless days, you will. Try your very best to enjoy the little moments of sweetness. The coos and giggles. The messes and madness. These times are tiring times, but bound to make our hearts and lives oh so full.
You got this, mama. I believe in YOU!
“Motherhood: All love begins and ends there.” –Robert Browning
Postpartum Herbal Bath: Nourishing baby, body, and mind
If you’ve been following any birth or newborn photographers on social media, you’ve likely seen the gorgeous images of a mom and her new baby soaking in a tub of tea-colored water. There are usually rose petals or orchids floating on the surface and a blissed-out mom and baby relaxed and soaking up the nourishing water and relaxing scents.
As you can imagine, growing a baby and giving birth are hard work. Women are practicing self-care by utilizing the healing and relaxation properties of a postpartum herbal bath. Postpartum herbal bath, chocked full of herbs that fight inflammation and promote healing in the skin and tissues, can not only be a way to provide comfort for a sore body, but it can be a beautiful opportunity to bond with a freshly born baby.
Postpartum herbal bath, which includes plantain, comfrey, yarrow, uva ursi, and a variety of other healing herbs, can be added to boiling water, but removed from the heat of the stove. The herbs should steep for 20 minutes, and then be strained. What remains is a powerful brew that can be used to heal and comfort sore and bruised tissues, combat inflammation, and promote relaxation and well-being.
The herbal bath brew can be used in many ways:
1. It can be added to a bathtub of warm water for a relaxing soak. This can not only be a way for mom to relax, but it can be a wonderful opportunity to enjoy and bond with baby as well.
2. The herbal brew can be added to a peri-bottle to rinse mom’s bottom after using the restroom.
3. The brew can be added to a maxi-pad and frozen to be used as a perineal ice pack to soothe swollen tissues. Conversely, using the herbal brew on a warm compress can be a comforting relief.
4. It may also be conveniently added to a sitz bath to soak mom’s bottom in the day following birth.
If you are planning an upcoming birth and want to treat yourself and baby, consider a warm soak in a relaxing herbal bath. You and your baby worked hard, you both deserve it.
Our herbal bath and other products can be found on our Etsy page.
**Please check with your care provider before taking a bath in the immediate days postpartum.**
Soothing Hemorrhoids in Pregnancy and Postpartum
Hemorrhoids, which are swollen and exposed blood vessels in the rectum, are perhaps one of the biggest complaints I hear from expecting and postpartum parents. Some find they have hemorrhoids during pregnancy, while others get them postpartum, likely from pushing.
But why do hemorrhoids happen in pregnancy?
During pregnancy, the increased progesterone levels cause the walls of the veins to relax, increasing the likelihood of swelling. Progesterone levels can also cause constipation in expecting mothers, particularly in the 3rd trimester of pregnancy. With increased swelling, constipation, and the growing uterus adding pressure to the inferior vena cava, hemorrhoids can become a common and unpleasant pregnancy symptom.
What can I do to soothe hemorrhoids in pregnancy/postpartum?
Eat well and supplement to make sure stools remain soft. Don't strain. Eating a diet high in fiber can help keep constipation at bay. Leafy greens, fruits, beans, and whole grains are all good sources of fiber. Supplementing with magnesium is also known to help keep bathroom habits comfortable and regular. I love this magnesium supplement and add it to my daily smoothies. Regular exercise can also encourage mobility in the bowel.
Witch Hazel is an anti-inflammatory antiseptic that can reduce discomfort and itchiness. Witch hazel is also an astringent, which contracts the tissues to minimize bleeding. After wiping, dip a cotton ball in witch hazel and apply to the area.
Sitz Baths are a basin that sits in the toilet bowel and can be used to soak your bottom in warm water. Not only can a sitz bath keep the area clean, but the warmth of the water can be comforting and also increases blood flow to the area encouraging healing.
Using cold compresses or ice packs can reduce pain and swelling in the area. Alternating between hot and cold throughout the day is ideal.
Kegeling can help strengthen your pelvic floor muscles, which can prevent internal hemorrhoids from being exposed. The exercise can also increase blood flow to the pelvic area, promoting healing of existing hemorrhoids.
Potatoes! Using a cheese grater, shred a raw potato. Use the grated pieces of potato to make poultice and place it next to the hemorrhoid (do not insert into the rectum). This is reported to reduce the swelling and the size of the hemorrhoid.
A diet high in vitamin C is known to strengthen blood vessels and can help prevent hemorrhoids. An added bonus of vitamin C is it also maximizes iron absorption.
What Is A Postpartum Doula?
Short answer; a postpartum doula is a cross between your mythical, awesomely helpful mother-in-law, and an expert baby whisperer! But seriously, a postpartum doula is a trained parenting, infant, and postnatal support professional. She provides education and assistance to families during the newborn period. This type of postpartum practitioner has a wealth of specialized experience and education, to help you adjust to parenthood. Think of a postpartum doula as your personalized parenting coach. Her goal is to help your family learn about normal newborn behavior, baby care techniques, infant sleep, postnatal recovery, breast and infant feeding techniques. There are really two avenues of support, a postpartum doula will provide. In the most traditional sense, a postpartum doula will help with a family-centered approach, or she can care for a growing family, by providing infant-focused care.
With a family-centered approach, a postpartum doula can guide, educate, and assist you through the parenting process. She may help you learn how to breastfeed with ease and confidence, answer questions you may have about feeding, diapering, bathing, grooming, and calming baby, and assist you with babywearing tips and techniques. Additionally, she may help you with meal planning and preparation, household organization, and give you access to trusted parenting and infant resources and referrals.
A postpartum doula can also help your family with infant-focused care. Within this framework, your doula serves as a newborn specialist. She will be attentive to all of your baby’s needs, so you can properly rest and recover, after birth. Infant-focused care is particularly helpful to parents who are wanting assistance during the evening and overnight hours. Your postpartum doula will provide dedicated newborn care, so you can have the most restorative sleep, knowing a skilled professional is attending to all of your baby’s desires.
If you want personalized support, guidance, and resources to help you make the best decisions for your new family, consider hiring a postpartum doula! To learn more about how a postpartum doula provides practical support to families during the transition to parenthood, read this article. Also check out The Relievery’s practitioner resource directory, or Doula Match, to find a postpartum professional in your area.
*This post was first published on THE RELIEVERY*
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Reflecting on Postpartum Anxiety: A Psychotherapist's Journey
It’s 7:30 on a Monday morning. I’m snuggled up with my 2-year- old in jersey-knit sheets, his legs tucked next to my body, his hair smelling faintly of lavender from last night’s bath. Nearby, my newborn stretches and grunts, waking from a peaceful sleep. This moment is a gift, and yet my stomach has already started to tighten and acid has started creeping up in my throat. The clock has started.
During my waking moments I have often felt as if I’m racing against some invisible clock which can be heard only within my mind and body. I’m on high alert, waiting for the next time my baby wakes, anticipating the next tantrum, imagining the next time my children might have conflicting needs. There is a constant awareness of a countdown until the next mini “crisis”, accompanied by a never-ending script of what-ifs, while I’m scarfing down lunch or scrambling to load the washing machine.
Is the baby going to wake up soon? Do I have time to take a shower? What if she cries? What if my son feels rejected when I can’t play with him because the baby needs to eat?
On that Monday morning, I somehow pull one leg out from under the sheets, and then the other. I announce that we’re going downstairs for breakfast. And I feel terrified.
We’re barely down the stairs before the tears start. I feel like I’m trapped, like something terrible is going to happen, like I’m unable to handle whatever is about to come my way.
I go through the motions- getting breakfast for my son, feeding the dog- while trying to hold it together.
How do I do this? What do I do? What do I do??
After the birth of my first child, the daily anxiety I experienced and the panic I felt upon waking each day caught me off guard. Even after having a history of some generalized anxiety, I did not anticipate the hormonal shifts, lack of sleep, and other postpartum factors impacting me the way they did. Although I felt attached to my son, the anxiety impacted my enjoyment of our time together, and my ability to have confidence in being a mother. I was convinced that I would always feel that way- unable to enjoy my new baby, panicked and miserable.
This time, after the birth of my second child, I knew more of what to expect and when I noticed those familiar feelings of anxiety and panic returning, albeit with less intensity, I made sure to seek out a therapist and ask for help in other areas of my life as well. I was fortunate after the births of both children in that I had a great deal of support, as well as access to and knowledge of resources which would help point me toward wellness. I am incredibly grateful I was able to continue caring for my children despite my uncomfortable symptoms.
Though I am currently on maternity leave, I plan to return to work as a psychotherapist. My passion is working with pregnant women and new moms, and I have completed a certificate training in Maternal Mental Health. Last year, I started my own business, Nesting Space Therapy LLC, to offer in-home psychotherapy to pregnant women and new moms. May is Maternal Mental Health Awareness Month, and I felt moved to be honest and say that I have been where so many women are and have been. I’m not really even out yet. Each day I am still continuing to heal. It’s not helpful to hide behind my profession and pretend I have it all together.
Mamas (and partners), there are resources out there for you. Please use them! Don’t feel ashamed. A great place to start looking for resources and assistance is Postpartum Support International. I wish all of you wellness. I’m on the other side of the darkness, and I can tell you that it gets better.
When your friend has a baby: 10 ways to support a new mother
When my closest friends were having babies, I was just getting married. I was pretty clueless about most things regarding the postpartum period and since the last baby to be born in my family was my 22-year-old sister, I knew even less about babies. I hadn’t a clue as to ways to support a new mother.
My best friend, the first one of us to have a baby, had a long labor, which ended with a cesarean. When she returned home, I am sure she was incredibly sore, but she was also clearly frustrated with breastfeeding. When I think back to how painfully clueless and useless I was when she had her baby, I shudder. I mean, I brought her a plant. A PLANT! While plants are lovely and they brighten up a room, it’s also one more thing for her to tend to and it isn’t remotely helpful to her in any way. Oh, and that’s not all. When lunch time rolled around, she heated up leftovers for us to eat. SHE heated up leftovers for ME. (**shudder**) It actually makes my stomach turn to think that I was that out of touch with what she needed.
After my own postpartum experiences, coupled with lots of training on birth and the postpartum period, I think it’s safe to say that thankfully, I’ve learned a few things since then. Here are 10 ways to support a new mother, so the next time you have a friend have a baby, you’ll know how to shower her with love (and clean laundry).
- Walk her dog. She’s healing from birth and her partner deserves a break. Take Fido for a stroll.
- Take her children outside. If mom has other children, take them outside to expel some energy. Playground, walk around the block, bike ride, whatever. Mom will appreciate the quiet and the kids will love the fun.
- Fix her family a snack or bring her a meal (or 2). Anything you can do to take some of the load off, please do. Make them a meal or a snack, and if you can, involve the kids. The kids will enjoy the activity and mom will get a reprieve by them being entertained. If you won’t be there long, bring a meal already prepared, but also one that is freezable, so they can enjoy it later if needed.
- Bring her groceries. When I had my first baby, a friend came to visit, and with her came 2 grocery bags full of food. Some of the food was already prepared and the rest was perfect grab-and-go foods for snacking. I was so touched and appreciated having new items in the fridge. We sat around the table and noshed while she held and loved on my baby. It was incredible and I appreciated it so much.
- Hold the baby and send her upstairs for a long, hot shower. It’s amazing how much a hot shower can change a person. Even if she doesn’t need it, take the baby, and if she has one, the 3-year-old, and send her upstairs for a hot shower and some alone time. She’ll come down feeling grateful and refreshed.
- Load her dishwasher and run it. I’m placing bets that when you go see her there will be a sink piled high with dishes. Load the dishwasher and be sure to run it. If you’re there long enough, empty it on your way out the door.
- Wash a load of laundry. It’s amazing how much laundry a 7-pound baby can produce. Whether it’s spit up on the onesie or breastmilk leaked on her shirt, there’s bound to be a load of clothes waiting. Wash a load for her. If there’s a load that’s been done, fold it. Laundry is one of those things that can get out of hand fast. Helping her stay in front of it will take a lot of burden off of her.
- Take out the trash. On your way out the door after your visit, take the trash with you.
- Sweep. Dog hair, cheerio crumbs, dried up play-doh pieces. It’ll take 5 minutes and will make a big difference.
- Bring her something for just her. Bring her something that will make her feel good. Ok, so maybe that plant wasn’t all bad. I love plants, but whatever it is, make sure it’s something that will make her feel warm and pampered. Maybe bring some great shampoo, bath salts, or handmade soap for the shower she’ll take during your visit. Whatever it is, make it special.
There are endless ways to support a new mother, these are just a few. The bottom line is make her life easy, make her plate lighter, and let her know you love her. Having a baby is hard, and sometimes the postpartum period is even harder. New moms are all too often left unsupported in our hustle-and-bustle culture, but we were never meant to do it alone. Be a good friend, show up, and give her what she needs. When she has a friend have a baby, she’ll remember how you made her feel, and she’ll pay it forward. Little by little, maybe our culture will begin to shift.
Postpartum Doulas Support Baltimore Families
Having a new baby can be a very challenging time for some mothers and their families. Mom may be healing from surgery or a difficult birth. Dad or partner may not be able to take any time off work, or maybe he travels a lot. Some families don’t live in the same area as their extended family, so they may have minimal family support. Perhaps they have other young children that need tending to while mom is healing. Maybe they just need help stocking the empty fridge.
Many families are finding comfort and support through postpartum doulas. While a birth doula supports families emotionally and physically during labor and delivery, a postpartum doula supports families after their baby arrives. Postpartum doulas support Baltimore families in a variety of ways. Their tasks may vary depending on the family’s needs, but ultimately the doula will help ease the family’s transition with baby, and help keep their home afloat while they recover from birth and bond with their growing family.
Postpartum doulas help families with light housekeeping, meal prep, sibling care, overnight support, errand running, and more. Just imagine…
- crawling into a bed with freshly changed sheets to nurse and nap with your new baby.
- waking up from your nap to a warm, nutritious lunch and a clean kitchen.
- a walked and fed dog.
- a happy toddler who is fed and playing happily.
- a stocked fridge and picked-up dry-cleaning hanging in the closet.
- that nursery furniture you never got around to putting together is now assembled and in its perfect place.
- nursing your baby and out of nowhere appears a glass of lemon water and a healthy snack.
- being frustrated with breastfeeding and receiving accurate information and troubleshooting tips, as well as a referral to the best IBCLCs in the area, who we have personally vetted.
- having help learning how to use that nifty new baby carrier.
- having clean and folded laundry for your entire family.
- having a nap or taking a hot soak in the tub while your doula lovingly takes care of your sweet new baby and children.
We can do all of that. We can take care of you.
By offering non-judgmental support, families feel safe asking questions related to breastfeeding, baby care, and postpartum wellness. Mothers and families feel secure knowing they can take the deserved time to rest and bond with baby while their doula keeps their home running smoothly. Our postpartum doulas support Baltimore families with passion, compassion, and expertise.
Why You Should Consider Hiring a Postpartum Doula
Postpartum mothers need support, especially in a culture that unrealistically expects women to bounce back so quickly after giving birth. As a society, we can be so hard on new mothers. Culturally, new moms often receive messages that there is shame in needing help. This is a huge shift from 100 years ago when mothers had a tribe of women lending their love and support when a baby was born. Moms may experience feelings of guilt for letting the laundry pile up while they nurse and bond with their baby and some may feel inadequate for hanging onto baby weight, choosing different parenting philosophies than their families, or needing more time to adjust to motherhood. In this social media/Pinterest age where everyone seemingly has it so together, modern mothers are under an immense amount of pressure to do it all and to do it all well.
A new mother has just gone through an intense physical and emotional experience and needs time to rest, heal, and get to know her baby and growing family. A postpartum mother needs support, nourishing foods that promote health and healing, and she needs to be able to sit and feed her baby as long as she needs without feeling guilt over the pile of dishes in the sink. But how is a veteran mother supposed to rest after having her baby when she has a home and other children to tend to and no real support network to help? And how is a new mother to rest when she’s navigating the physical and emotional demands of her new role as a mother?
A postpartum doula is a trained professional who not only brings support to the whole family after the arrival of a new baby, but she also brings with her a wealth of knowledge related to baby care, breastfeeding, and postpartum health. A postpartum doula can fill the gaps, so the family has more freedom to do what is most important, be together.
Perhaps you’ve had a cesarean and your partner doesn’t get much time off of work to help with the house and the other children. You have a lot to tend to, but are healing from major surgery and your baby is nursing or wanting to be held around the clock. What’s a new mom to do? A postpartum doula can come over, do a few loads of laundry, play with and look after your kids, fix lunch and prepare and easy dinner you’ll be eating later that night.
Maybe you’re a first time mom, you have no experience with babies, and you’re feeling a little lost. A postpartum doula can come over to help you feel more comfortable caring for your baby. The doula may show you how to give baby a bath, she may teach you some breastfeeding positions to make nursing more comfortable, and she may give you pointers on calming a fussy baby. A postpartum doula also comes with a list of vetted resources to help meet all of your postpartum needs whether it is a lactation consultant or a therapist specializing in postpartum mood disorders.
Maybe you’re really struggling and are finding the lack of sleep is really effecting you. A postpartum doula can come lend a hand and tend to baby overnight, only disturbing you if you choose to nurse.
The Nurturing Root provides
postpartum doula services to mothers and families in Baltimore, Annapolis, and the surrounding counties. As postpartum doulas, we can help and support your family in a variety of ways to suit your needs:
- Clean and fold laundry
- Support the overall transition with a new baby by providing education on baby care, baby sleep, diapering, etc.
- Provide a list of local resources to help make your postpartum experience a peaceful one
- Breastfeeding support
- Preparation of healthy snacks & meals for your whole family to enjoy
- Sibling care
- Errand running
- An ear to listen
- Overnight assistance
- Light housekeeping, including sweeping, mopping, dishes, etc.
If you are an expecting or new mother in the Baltimore, Annapolis area and are looking for postpartum support, our postpartum doulas at The Nurturing Root would be honored to serve you as you transition to a larger family.